I can't stress how amazing and true this article. Having traversed this spectrum myself - from "Ok, maybe cute, nice" to "F*ck, dashing, handsome", the change has been the frame.

When I say frame, I mean the aura. A man is the sum of what he achieves - this doesn't mean only material possessions, this means skills, mindsets, epiphanies, failures, mental suffering, physical suffering, etc.

Truth is courage. Courage is truth. And the more you move towards this ideal, the stronger you become as a man