I 100% understand your point and to explain this, I'll need to go on a super super long rant.

But let me try explaining through a few bullet points:

1. The way men and women seek sexual partners is different.

2. Due to the differing biological cost of sex (9 months of pregnancy for a woman vs almost nothing for a man (this is evolutionary mind you), a woman seeks QUALITY while a man seeks QUANTITY.

3. So now, how this goes is, while even a high level man would settle to bang let's say 10 average girls, a high level woman wouldn't settle for the same.

4. This goes so far that women wouldn't even mind sharing a high level man (I'm talking top 1%). Also, I've experienced this in my own life (when I dated non-exclusively for a while and the girls despite knowing I had other girlfriends stayed with me).

5. I'm no where top 1% overall, but in my age group and in the indian context, maybe I am. So you see how that pans out?

6. Coming to women not having to prove anything, sadly that's the way it is (in the lower echelons of men, I mean the bottom 80%).

7. This comes down to supply and demand.

8. As we saw earlier, women always date "up" while men don't. (As the saying goes, a man is only as loyal as his options).

9. So if a man doesn't have options, he'll go lower, so much so that most desperate men will beg for UGLY girls!

10. This is why it's so damnnn important to level up as a man.

11. On that note, men are built while women are simply born, this again goes back to how attraction is wired.

12. While men (mostly) find a woman's looks to be the #1 factor, for women, it's a whole host of things - masculinity, boldness, charisma, humour, grooming, confidence, etc.

13. So in today's world, unless you break into the top 20% of men, you won't experience ANY action (as stats show and I've seen through experience).

14. Break into the top 5% and you'll start to experience abundance (oneitis is healed at this point since you'll always find someone else).

15. Break into the top 1% and the game is flipped - tons and tons of pretty women around but very very few high level men so the supply/demand equation is flipped.

16. Now YOU get to command your choices - only now am I getting to experience this (with average and sub-average women but you get the idea).

17. While all I've said is a large generalization and applies much more to the western countries, many of the ideas apply to India as well.

18. Coming to high level, I don't necessarily mean rich, jacked, tall, or all those things. Your confidence and sense of self-worth are the KING factors.

19. Some can be confident without any of those things and they still get women. Some need material achievements and stuff to gain that kind of confidence.

20. So women aren't to blame, it's only supply/demand economics and the differences in how we're wired.

21. In the modern day, due to globalization of dating and simping ( as I described in the intro), women's self-worth has inflated a ton.

22. The cure for this is in us men's hands only. If all men were to hop on self improvement, simping would come to an end, women would come back to reality, men would level up, and a healthy balance would be restored.

23. Lol this did end up becoming a ramble. Hope this answered any questions you might have had